The Husband Who Was Too Shy To Look At His Wife

(a moving story)

This story was recounted by Prof. Khalid Al-Jubeir, consulting cardiovascular surgeon, in one of his lectures:

Once I operated on a two and a half year old child. It was Tuesday, and on Wednesday the child was in good health. On Thursday at 11:15 am – and I’ll never forget the time because of the shock I experienced – one of the nurses informed me that the heart and breathing of the child had stopped. I hurried to the child and performed cardiac massage for 45 minutes and during that entire time the heart would not work.

Then, ALLAH decreed for the heart to resume function and we thanked HIM. I went to inform the child’s family about his condition. As you know, it is very difficult to inform the patient’s family about his condition when it’s bad. This is one of the most difficult situations a doctor is subjected to but it is necessary. So I looked for the child’s father whom I couldn’t find. Then I found his mother. I told her that the child’s cardiac arrest was due to bleeding in his throat; we don’t know the cause of this bleeding and fear that his brain is dead. So how do you think she responded? Did she cry? Did she blame me? No, nothing of the sort. Instead, she said “Alhamdulillah” (All Praise is due to ALLAH) and left me.

After 10 days, the child started moving. We thanked ALLAH and were happy that his brain condition was reasonable. After 12 days, the heart stopped again because of the same bleeding. We performed another cardiac massage for 45 minutes but this time his heart didn’t respond. I told his mother that there was no hope. So she said: “Alhamdulillah. O ALLAH, if there is good in his recovery, then cure him, O my Lord.”

With the grace of ALLAH, his heart started functioning again. He suffered six similar cardiac arrests till a trachea specialist was able to stop the bleeding and the heart started working properly. Now, three and a half months had passed and the child was recovering but did not move. Then just as he started moving, he was afflicted with a very large and strange pus-filled abscess in his head, the likes of which I had never seen. I informed his mother of the serious development. She said “Alhamdulillah” and left me.

We immediately turned him over to the surgical unit that deals with the brain and nervous system and they took over his treatment. Three weeks later, the boy recovered from this abscess but was still not moving. Two weeks pass and he suffers from a strange blood poisoning and his temperature reaches 41.2°C (106°F). I again informed his mother of the serious development and she said with patience and certainty: “Alhamdulillah. O ALLAH, if there is good in his recovery, then cure him.”

After seeing his mother who was with her child at Bed#5, I went to see another child at Bed#6. I found that child’s mother crying and screaming, “Doctor! Doctor! Do something! The boy’s temperature reached 37.6°C (99.68°F)! He’s going to die! He’s going to die!” I said with surprise, “Look at the mother of that child in Bed#5. Her child’s fever is over 41°C (106°F), yet she is patient and praises ALLAH.” So she replied: “That woman isn’t conscious and has no senses”. At that point, I remembered the great Hadith of the Prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam): “Blessed are the strangers.” Just two words… but indeed two words that shake a nation! In 23 years of hospital service, I have never seen the likes of this patient sister.

We continued to care for him. Now, six and a half months have passed and the boy finally came out of the recovery unit – not talking, not seeing, not hearing, not moving, not smiling, and with an open chest in which you can see his beating heart. The mother changed the dressing regularly and remained patient and hopeful. Do you know what happened after that? Before I inform you, what do you think are the prospects of a child who has passed through all these dangers, agonies, and diseases? And what do you expect this patient mother to do whose child is at the brink of the grave and who is unable to do anything except supplicate and beseech ALLAH? Do you know what happened two and a half months later? The boy was completely cured by the mercy of ALLAH and as a reward for this pious mother. He now races his mother with his feet as if nothing happened and he became sound and healthy as he was before.

The story doesn’t end here. This is not what moved me and brought tears to my eyes. What filled my eyes with tears is what follows:

One and a half years after the child left the hospital, one of the brothers from the Operations Unit informed me that a man, his wife and two children wanted to see me. I asked who they were and he replied that he didn’t know them. So I went to see them, and I found the parents of the same child whom I operated upon. He was now five years old and like a flower in good health – as if nothing happened to him. With them also was a four-month old newborn. I welcomed them kindly and then jokingly asked the father whether the newborn was the 13th or 14th child. He looked at me with an astonishing smile as if he pitied me. He then said, “This is the second child, and the child upon whom you operated is our first born, bestowed upon us after 17 years of infertility. And after being granted that child, he was afflicted with the conditions that you’ve seen.”

At hearing this, I couldn’t control myself and my eyes filled with tears. I then involuntarily grabbed the man by the arm, and pulling him to my room, asked him about his wife: “Who is this wife of yours who after 17 years of infertility has this much patience with all the fatal conditions that afflict her first born?! Her heart cannot be barren! It must be fertile with Imaan!”Do you know what he said? Listen carefully my dear brothers and sisters. He said, “I was married to this woman for 19 years and for all these years she has never missed the [late] night prayers except due to an authorized excuse. I have never witnessed her backbiting, gossiping, or lying. Whenever I leave home or return, she opens the door, supplicates for me, and receives me hospitably. And in everything she does, she demonstrates the utmost love, care, courtesy, and compassion.” The man completed by saying, “Indeed, doctor, because of all the noble manners and affection with which she treats me, I’m shy to lift up my eyes and look at her. So I said to him: “And the likes of her truly deserve that from you.”

The End…

ALLAH says: And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient; Who, when calamity strikes them, say, “Indeed we belong to ALLAH, and indeed to HIM we will return.” Those are the ones upon whom are blessings from their Lord and mercy. And it is those who are the [rightly] guided. (Surah Al-Baqarah 155-157)

Umm Salamah (the wife of the Prophet) said: I heard the Messenger of ALLAH (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) saying: “There is no Muslim who is stricken by a calamity and says what ALLAH has commanded him – ‘Indeed we belong to ALLAH, and indeed to Him we will return; O ALLAH, reward me for my affliction and compensate me with that which is better’ – except that ALLAH will grant him something better in exchange.” When Abu Salamah [her former husband] passed away, I said to myself: “What Muslim is better than Abu Salamah?” I then said the words, and ALLAH gave me the Messenger of ALLAH (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) in exchange. (Sahih Muslim)

 

Dr. Mursi...Sangat berbeza

Dr Mursi.....

Seorang Pemimpin Negara yang Hafal 30 juzuk Al Quran

Tulisan ini bukan maksud ingin memuji-muji Presiden mesir terpilih yang baru Dr.Muhammad Mursi. 

Tapi sekadar ingin sekurang-kurangnya mengambil teladan dari Dr.Muhammad Mursi. 

Mursi memang berbeza. 

Hari-hari pertamanya setelah diumumkan kemenangannya secara rasmi sebagai Presiden, Beliau tidak melupakan jiran-jirannya dan membuka pintu rumahnya untuk bersiraturrahim ramah tamah bertahniah mengucapkan selamat. Bahkan setelah diketahui kemenangannya melalui pengiraan cepat timsesnya Beliau langsung turun ke medan tahrir. 

Mursi memang berbeza. 

Di mata rakyat kini, bagi seorang Presiden, istana presiden menjadi sebuah istana yang keramat dan suci serta istimewa untuk seorang Presiden. Istana yang pintu-pintunya seakan tertutup untuk rakyat. Yang tetingkap-jendelanya tak mampu ditembus oleh rintihan payahnya hidup rakyat. Bahkan ketika satu saja pintunya terbuka, rakyat pun masih tetap diberikan terma dan syarat berlaku dan terbuka hanya di open house tahunan. 

Mursi memang berbeza. 

Bukan tidak disediakan istana presiden untuknya. Tapi Beliau lebih senang memilih untuk tidak tinggal di istana presiden dan tetap tinggal di rumah sewanya semasa memegang jawatan sebagai ketua parti hurriyah wal 'adalah, yang pintunya tidak jauh dari jirannya dan rakyatnya. Beliau senang rakyatnya dengan mudah mengetuk pintunya meski hanya sekadar ingin curhat tentang anak dan isteri mereka. Dan sampai saat ini belum ada khabar apakah Beliau tetap akan tinggal di rumah sewanya atau akan tinggal di istana presiden. 

Mursi memang berbeza. 

Bukan ingin menyusahkan pengawalnya untuk selalu terjaga sepanjang jalan menuju masjid di setiap waktu solatnya. Tapi hanya sekadar ingin taat menjalani ibadah sebagai hamba Allah swt. 

Setelah rasmi menjadi seorang Presiden pun, Beliau tetep berkeras ingin melaksanakan solat berjemaah di masjid. Bahkan dalam sebuah surat khabar mesir dikhabarkan Beliau selalu didapati sebagai imam ketika solat di masjid. Bukan kerana Beliau Presiden lalu orang segan lantas Beliau diminta menjadi imam. 

Tapi bahkan memang Beliau telah hafal al-Quran. Mungkin ini salah satunya sebab Beliau masih tetap tinggal di rumah sewanya; ingin tetap bertatap muka dengan rakyatnya dan bersama-sama taat sebagai seorang hamba. Akhirnya, penjagaan dari pengawalnya pun Beliau minta untuk tidak terlalu ketat. 

Mursi memang berbeza. 

Bukan kerana tidak senang ada pengawal peribadi sebagai seorang Presiden. Tapi kerana keyakinan yang kuat bahawa Allah swt lah sebaik-baiknya penjaga. 

Pengawal presiden yang menurutnya berlebihan dan mengganggu kebebasan rakyatnya pun diminta untuk dikurangkan personelnya. Seperti pada saat Beliau hendak melangsungkan solat Jumaat di masjid al-azhar. 

Dengan pengawal yang tidak terlalu banyak personelnya hampir dan bahkan tidak mengganggu lalu lintas yang menyebabkan kesesakan hanya sebab iring-iringan Presiden pada umumnya. 

Lintasan jalan pada lokasi kunjungan yang sangat dekat dan satu arah dengan pasaran yang tidak di tutup sama sekali. Bas dan pengangkutan awam masih tetap berlalu lalang di sekitar lokasi lawatan Presiden. Bahkan pasaran yang sangat dekat dan satu arah dengan lintasan lokasi lawatan masih tetap aktif. 

Sama sekali seperti tidak ada kunjungan Presiden yang biasanya jalanan mendadak sepi kerana ditutup. Kejadian seperti itu pun di ulangi ketika Muhammad Mursi hendak mengikrarkan sumpah di Mahkamah Perlembagaan Agung. 

Mursi memang berbeza. 

Keyakinannya bahawa Allah swt lah sebaik-baik penjaganya, dibuktikan lagi dengan aksinya di pentas medan tahrir saat menyampaikan pidato dan sumpah Presiden di hadapan rakyatnya secara langsung. Sumpah dan teriakan lantang untuk rakyatnya bahawa ia tidak takut kecuali kepada Allah swt membuat seluruh rakyat tak mampu lagi membendung air mata mereka. Maidan tahrir pun bukan hanya dipenuhi ratusan juta rakyatnya tetapi juga dibanjiri dengan air mata haru dan bangga dari rakyatnya. 

Mursi memang berbeza. 

Bukan hanya sesosok Beliau saja yang boleh diteladani. Anggota keluarganya pun ia berikan teladan yang sangat baik. 

Ibunda najlaa, isteri Muhammad Mursi yang begitu anggun dan bersahaja dengan tudung lebarnya yang teramat sederhana, enggan untuk diberikan gelaran Ibu Negara. Ia lebih suka dipanggil ummu ahmad. Panggilan yang disandarkan kepada putra pertamanya ahmad Muhammad Mursi. Beliau berpendapat bahawa tidak ada yang namanya ibu negara yang ada adalah pelayan negara. 

Ahmad Muhammad Mursi, putra pertama MUhammad Mursi. Baginya, kemenangan orang tuanya sebagai Presiden adalah hal yang wajar dan merupakan kurniaan Allah swt yang diberikan kepada orang tuanya. 

Dan itu tidak akan mengubah pola kehidupan atau pekerjaannya yang kini sebagai seorang doktor. Ia akan tetap menjalani hidupnya dan berusaha belajar hidup lebih baik dan berdikari tanpa terpengaruh oleh jabatan ayahnya. 

Dan bahkan salah satu putra Muhammad Mursi yang lain menghantar surat kepadanya untuk menyampaikan bahawa dirinya akan mentaati ayahnya sebagai seorang Presiden jika ayahnya mentaati Allah swt dan memperhatikan hak-hak rakyatnya dan akan menentang ayahnya sebagai seorang Presiden jika menentang Allah swt dan tidak memenuhi hak-hak rakyatnya. 

Semoga kita boleh mengambil teladan dari Presiden Muhammad Mursi; 

Bahawa ketaqwaan kepada Allah adalah segalanya dalam hidup. 

Bahawa tidak ada yang harus ditakuti kecuali Allah semata-mata. 

Bahawa kesederhanaan keharusan bagi seorang pemimpin. 

Bahawa bukan aib bila seorang pemimpin hidup sehari-hari berbaur dengan rakyat atau orang bawahannya. 

Bahawa semestinya tidak ada sekat antara pemimpin dan rakyatnya. 

Dan banyak dari teladan yang boleh diambil dari sepak terajang Muhammad Mursi.  

Orang yang dahulunya dipenjarakan kerana agamanya kini sedang memimpin negara dengan agama yang dipertahankannya dahulu.

Semoga dengan adanya pemimpin seperti beliau akan dapat merubah dunia Islam sekarang yang sangat kritikal..inshaAllah, kami bersama Dr Mursi...

Allah a'lam